31st of Dec 2007, the last day of year 2007.

For many of you out there, today might be just another day of party, another day of celebration.

But what is the purpose of all these parties and celebrations?
What does last day of year 2007 means to you?

New Year Eve, a day where it's suppose to be a joyous, full of laughter and happiness of family and friends get together.

But for me, and my family, today is not really that joyous.



Two of my relative are currently lying in the hospital.

One of them lying unconscious in the Medical Intensive Care Unit since Monday due to Viral Infection to the lungs.
Another who is currently awaiting for a Heart Operation which will start this afternoon.

Previously I've mentioned about fear of death, but after visiting both of them yesterday, I'm starting to see death in a different angle.

Imagine.

You've been healthy for almost 30 years of your life.
One fine day you feel some aching on your back, so you've decided to see a doctor thinking it might be some sprain on it.
After some checking, the doctor suddenly tells you 'I think you might have a kidney failure'.

You must be thinking that the doctor is crazy during that instant.
But before you know it, you are already sitting there having your regular Kidney Dialysis in the hospital.

What can be worst?

You are on your way home after your routine dialysis.
Suddenly you feel breathless and you could feel your heart beating abnormally.
"Man, must be those dumb Dialysis session that have cause this" you said to yourself.

After visiting the hospital about your situation, you got this news from the doctor.
"Do you know you almost have a heart attack?".

Can you imagine every single hope is taken away from you one by one?



This is what he said when we visited him yesterday.

"I've chosen to have this operation. I've given enough trouble for my family, I've been enough burden to my family.
All my sons is unwilling to travel overseas for work or for holiday because of me. My wife have to accompany me wherever I go because I might have heart attack anytime.

Yesterday the Doctor in-charge told me that my danger of this operation is twice of normal person. I might die in the operation. But I'll still be going for it.

Either I survive and lesser the burden to my family.
Or I'll just leave this world and after my funeral, my family will be free for all troubles and go wherever they want to go."

My mum cried upon hearing it, and my dad kept encouraging him to think positively.

I too, can feel tears coming out of my eyes.

He had chosen death as one of his choice to 'free' his family.

What makes a person to come towards such decision?
Shouldn't everyone be striving hard to keep alive and live it with meaning?

But once you think in his position, I believe majority of us out here, will make the same choice.

Some people are left with no choice, no hope to be alive.
And yet there are people who's totally healthy, who got a loving family but kept thinking of death.

These people often says "You will never understand how I feel".
But do you ever understand how a person feels to be taken away of all hopes of staying alive?

Try paying a visit to the hospital, do those people chose to be there?



Why fear death since it will come sooner or later?

Instead of wasting time in the fear, why not make full use of the time you have and live life to the fullest.
After all, we wouldn't know how much time we are left with.

Treasure all your family member and friends around you.
No one knows what will happen the next moment.

'Live as if you will die tomorrow, Dream as if you live forever'



Do pray with me, for all these people out there.
People who had fallen against the fight of illness.

Hoping that they will win this battle, win this battle that might last even for life.

Last but not least, I dedicate this post to both of my relative.
Hoping that one will wake up and be healthy again soon, and the other to have a successful surgery.

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'Mommy, I had a bad dream…'

Does this sentence sound familiar?

This is what we used to tell our mum whenever we had nightmares when we are young.

Nightmares

How often do you have one?

I've just had one last night, and in fact, I often had nightmares.

Nightmares are unpleasant dreams that awaken a dreamer from sleep.

Often I will just sit up, panting and wondering if what had happened in my dream was real.

What kind of nightmares do you normally have?

Last night, I dream about being chase, by what I do not know either.

In my dream, I just kept running, climbing and finding place to hide.

If dream reflects about what's happening in life, does it mean I'm running or hiding from something in life?

'Chase dreams may represent your way of coping with fears, stress or various situations in your waking life.'

Instead of confronting the situation, I'm actually running away and avoiding it?

If dream reflects about what I fear or sad about in life.

Maybe I should ask myself 'who' is the one chasing me and gain some understanding on the source of my fears and pressure.



Falling dreams are another theme that is quite common in the world of dreams.

Sometimes people will just wake up when they are 'falling', in fact the feeling of 'falling' is so real that it cause people to wake up.
We feel our whole body jerk or twitch and we awaken from this jerk.

'Falling is an indication of insecurities, instabilities, and anxieties. You are feeling overwhelmed and out of control in some situation in your waking life.

Falling dreams also often reflect a sense of failure or inferiority in some circumstance or situation. It may be the fear of failing in your job/school, loss of status, or failure in love.'

In fact, all these are just signs of lack-of-confidence.

If you often have such dream, believe more in yourself.
Take pride in everything you do, and don't feel ashame if you are not able to compare up to others.
Everyone in this world exist for a purpose, you have your strong points too. (Although you might not discover it yet)



We all have had nightmares at various parts in our lives. They are quite normal.

The distinction of a nightmare from dreams is its frightening and/or emotional content.

You tend to wake up in fear in the midst of a nightmare.
Because of its frightening nature, you tend to remember your nightmares and the vivid details.

They have a bigger impact upon your waking mind and its images stay with you throughout the day.
(Mine often did, and I'll be moody for the day)

But don't hate it, in fact if there's a reason for everything that exist in this world, there must be one too for nightmare.

One reason that I always belief in is, nightmares may be a way of our unconscious to get our attention about a situation or problem that we have been avoiding.

It is time to take notice and confront the problem or situation!

Nightmares serve an important purpose in showing you what is troubling you from within you deeper levels.

Don't be afraid of nightmares.

Discussing, analyzing, and understanding your nightmares can lead to a solution for some problem, internal conflict or personal difficulty.

By doing it might also helped in improving your day to day life.

So what did you dream about last night?

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If you put a grasshopper in a jar and put a lid on it, the grasshopper will try to jump out.

He will only try, though, until he realizes he can’t, and then he will stop.

Smart grasshopper, isn't it?

A couple days later, you take the lid off, he still won’t jump.

Why?

Because he 'knows' he can’t get out.

It’s the same way when a baby elephant is chained to a stump.

When the baby elephant is small, it can’t pull the chain loose.

Later, when it grew up and big, it can.

But it won’t.

Why? Because it 'knows' it can’t.

Both the grasshopper and the elephant are wrong, aren’t they?



What is it in your life that you might be wrong about or feel you are chained to?

Is the lid off and you don’t even know it?

When you were little, you may have said to yourself 'I can’t do it' when it came to reaching for things, riding a bike, running fast or singing in front of a crowd.

Now you are older.
You can do all those things, and more.

You didn’t think you could learn, didn’t think you could be strong, didn’t think your opinion mattered.

But now do you realize that you can learn, you can be strong, your opinion does matter?

What are the things in your life that you think you still 'can’t' do?

Check it out thoroughly.

Are you still right and really can’t do it?
Or do you realize there is a possibility that you could be wrong?
That you could have been wrong all these years, that now you can do it.

Why not take a look at everything you do in your life right now.

What is happening?

Are your eyes opening wider?

Some of the things that you often say to yourself don’t really apply anymore, like they did when you were little, do they?

Then why are you still saying them?



Look at all those poor grasshoppers that stuck in a jar.
They won’t even try to get out.

Do you want to be like them for the rest of your life?

Why not try something different every day?

You may or may not succeed.

But in no time you’ll find a new way to look at things and new ways to succeed.

Take the lid off.

Live life, love life.

Succeed through striving and not fail through retreating into old habits.

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Recently I came across a very interesting article which I hope to share with my Buen Amigo =)

The experts say that your unconscious doesn't pay attention to the negating factor, the 'NOT', in sentences like the title of this post.

Knowing that, do any of these following scenarios pertain to you and your thoughts?

Someone you know has fallen on some bad times, and their business goes under.
Do you find yourself thinking, "Oh, I hope that doesn't happen to me."

An older person you know has fallen and broken her hip, and you see how much pain she's in.
Do you find yourself thinking, "Oh, I hope that doesn't happen to me."

You watch the news and see that a person was high-jacked, that some people were injured in an earth quake, that someone was killed in a driveby shooting.
"Oh, I hope that doesn't happen to me." Or even, "I'm glad that's not me."



Your unconscious doesn't pay attention to the negating factor, the 'NOT'.

That being the case, what are you continually saying to yourself, if you say the above sentences?
Take the NOT out and see what you may have said to yourself more times than you can count. "Oh, I hope that does happen to me!"

That may not be what you were thinking, but it is what your unconscious mind was hearing.

If you tell a two-year-old, "Don't eat that cookie."

What is the two-year-old hearing? "Eat that cookie!"
(Actually, the two-year-old just hears cookie. That's what his mind is focused on.)

If you say to yourself, "I'm not going to eat that second piece of cake" what are you hearing? "I'm going to eat that second piece of cake."
(Your mind is actually focused on the object you are thinking about.)

That is usually proven by the fact that you do eat that second piece of cake.

Change your life around.

If you find yourself saying anything like the above sentences, the minute you realize you are about to say it, change it to "I am so happy I am safe." Or, "I am so happy I am healthy."

If you feel you are being selfish saying that, in light of other people's bad fortune, change it.

How about "I am so happy I am healthy, and they (whoever you had read or heard about) are getting better and better."



Watch the words you say.

If they aren't stating something you would like, change them until they do.

Take charge of your future.

Make sure the words you are saying aren't describing your yesterdays.

Make sure they are forecasting the tomorrows you want.

Try it out and you might get unexpected result =)

How about if you try it out right now?

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Are you living in your dreams?

If the answer is no, then ask yourself “why not”?

Life is short, and you never know when it will come to an end.

Do you really want to say that you lived a life of unfulfilled dreams?

But wait, most people often says “I’m waiting for the perfect time” or “I’m waiting for the perfect situation”.

All this waiting is just an excuse not to go out and try.
Or, maybe it’s not that you are “waiting”, but rather that you are afraid.

So, what are you afraid of?

Are you afraid of making a mistake?

Afraid of making the wrong choice?

Are you afraid that you may not be good enough, or that the people around you might laugh at your dreams, or won’t support you?

Are your fears enough to stop you?

And what happens if you do end up living your dreams?

Are you afraid that once you get there then you’ll have to live them?

Meaning that what you’ve been talking about for so long will now come to fruition and you might not actually succeed?



I often see that fear is the number one reason that people do not live their dreams.

Fear holds us back, sometimes paralyzing us, and prevents us from moving forward.

But, when you look back at your life, what do you want it to be about?

Do you want to say, “I could have” or “I did”?

How do you move past your fears and live your dreams?

Here's 7 steps to overcome your fear which I've learn from Deborah Brown-Volkman articles.

1. Acknowledge That You Have Dreams

People often say that they don’t have dreams or they can’t remember what they are.
You know what your dreams are, you really do.
You’ve just pushed them down so deep that it might take some time to bring them to the surface again.
Let them out, you deserve to live them.

2. Write Down Your Dreams

How can you live your dreams if you can’t see what they are?
Write them down.
Don’t judge your dreams or wonder “how?”
Just do it!

3. Realize That Dreams Come True In Steps

Your dreams cannot come true until you take a small step.
It doesn’t have to be a large one.
It just has to get you moving.
Small steps are the steps that will get you to your dreams.
Until, one day, you realize that you are there.

4. Face The Barriers That Are Keeping You From Living Your Dreams

What’s keeping you from living your dreams?
Not enough money or time?
Too many responsibilities?
Look for ways to overcome this.
There will always be a reason not to do something.
It’s up to you if you want to give into these reasons or not.

5. Find People Who Will Support You

Select people who will love you and cheer you on as you move toward your dreams.
Tell them how much you love and appreciate them.
You do not want to live your dreams by yourself.

6. Pat Yourself On The Back For Your Successes

You deserve it!
The fun part of living your dreams is the journey.
It is the road to success that builds character and the part that you will remember the most.

7. Be Comfortable With Fear

There are times when you will wonder if you have what it takes to fulfill your dreams or if you deserve to live them.
Fear is a normal part of the process.
If you can accept that sooner or later you will be afraid, then you don’t have to spend time worrying about what you will do when fear sets in.
The only way past fear is through it and not around it.
There is no other way.



So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!

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Relationships hold a high place for most of us, especially women.

They want great relationships with clear communication, empathy, understanding, mutual trust and friendship.

But what do we get much of the time?

Relationships loaded with communication problems, irritability, conflict, misunderstandings, blame, hurt and anger!

If you have a relationship like this you know what I mean.
Stress grows and settles in your muscles and organs and you develop anxiety and depression.

Loyalty, tradition and fear of failure demand we stay.

We try again and again to fix the problems, ignore the fighting, and say the same thing for the tenth time with different words.

Do you identify with this situation?

You can stuff resentment and deny personal needs for the sake of the relationship.

But it just happen over and over again, so often that it seems like the same ‘Episode’ every week.

Walking through these relationships mine fields is hazardous to your health!

Relationship Stress, causing you to fall sick, unable to concentrate for work and even break down into depression.



What can you do?

No matter what you do, never hope that things will change for a better, cause it won't!

You have to change it yourself.

You can make a difference.

But how?

1. Get to know yourself, inside and out. Know what you want and need. Know what you like. Determine your values and priorities. Write them down. Believe in yourself and don't compromise.

2. Choose healthy relationships from the start. Don't go out looking for a red dress and settle for beige! Don't be desperate - be choosey!

3. Move slowly and develop a strong foundation. Don't get enmeshed in an
emotional relationship before you see the hazards and recognize the danger.

4. Nurture good relationships. Take the first step to schedule a get together or just chat on the phone.

5. Develop excellent communication and conflict resolution skills, and use them. This in itself can drastically change a relationship.

6. Develop assertiveness skills. Passive people ignore their needs and get walked on. Aggressive people walk on others to get what they want. Assertive people learn to get their needs met without walking on anyone.

7. Learn to really listen. Listen with body, mind and spirit.

8. Be self-aware. When a misunderstanding happens, check it out. Be sure you have all the information. Determine what part you played in the situation.

9. Develop intuition and body awareness so you can identify relationship stress in your body immediately, as it is happening. Then deal with it appropriately before it gets deadly.

10. Lose the denial. If something isn't right, deal with it. Don't play pretend and wake up too late. All relationships have misunderstandings. It's how we deal with them that counts.



If you find yourself struggling with your relationships, new or long term, don't wait!

Do what you deem is right, as Life is short.

Leave no Regrets for Future.

P.S. This post is for a friend of mine as she recently encountered some relationship problem.
Losing the sense of direction during a relationship is common for most of us.
What's important is we must make a decision on the 'direction' we want to go and find our way out, not standing in the middle of no where telling yourself 'I'm too weak to go on'.
May you find your Happiness soon my friend =)

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Happiness, what does happiness means to you?

Do you feel Happy for the things that Happen, or do the things that Happen makes you happy?

Both may mean the same to you. But not for long.

Here's a Story I found which might change the way you think =)



The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window.

"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room .... just wait."

"That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied.

"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged ... it's how I arrange my mind.

I already decided to love it ... It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away ... just for this time in my life."



What does Happiness means to you now?

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I once brought this Book by Mitch Albom called 'The Five People You Meet in Heaven'.

Here a brief Story of this Book:

Eddie is a wounded war veteran, an old man who has lived, in his mind, an uninspired life.
His job is fixing rides at a seaside amusement park.
On his 83rd birthday, a tragic accident kills him as he tries to save a little girl from a falling cart.
He awakes in the afterlife, where he learns that heaven is not a destination.
It's a place where your life is explained to you by five people, some of whom you knew, others who may have been strangers.
One by one, from childhood to soldier to old age, Eddie's five people revisit their connections to him on earth, illuminating the mysteries of his "meaningless" life, and revealing the haunting secret behind the eternal question: "Why was I here?"



This is one of the most meaningful Book I've ever read.

And I think everyone should read it =)
(If you couldn't find the Book or unwilling to spend any money in buying, feel free to drop me a Comment with your Email and, I'll find a 'Solution' for you)

There's also other titles of Mitch Albom which I think are very meaningful too.

Tuesday with Morrie and For One More Day.

Do check them out when you're free =)

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Christmas Season is near by and it's time to get Gifts and Presents for our Families and Friends =)

Have you brought what you want for your Love ones?

Or are you still Headache over what to buy?

People are always under the assumption that giving gifts is about emptying your wallet.

Gifts are a way to express yourself to another individual and show care, support, understanding, celebration, happiness, and love.

When giving a gift it isn't always necessary to spend the big bucks and lavish your recievers heart through money.



How about normal days? Do you give Gifts to your Love ones too?

Since Gifts are a way to express yourself to your Love ones how you feel, why must you wait for Seasons like Christmas to give Gifts?

You must be thinking, buying Gifts everyday will cost a bomb or put a hole your pocket.

Not all Gifts cost money =)

Here's 8 Great Gifts that you can give to people around you everyday.

1. The Gift of Listening

But you must REALLY listen.

No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

2. The Gift of Affection

Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and hand holds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

3. The Gift of Laughter

Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you".

4. The Gift of Written Note

It can be a simple "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.

5. The Gift of Compliment

A simple and sincere, "You look great in red", "You did a super job" or "That was a wonderful meal" can make someone's day.

6. The Gift of Favor

Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

7. The Gift of Solitude

There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

8. The Gift of Cheerful Deposition

The easiest way to feel good is to make other feel good.



Hope you all enjoy the this Holiday Season and Remember the True Meaning of Christmas.

It's not what you give, it’s the Meaning behind the gift!

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Hi all Buen Amigo! (Buen Amigo means Great Friend)

It's the time of the year again, the Holiday Season!

Imagine all the Presents, Gifts, Food and most important Chocolates!
I Love Chocolates.

In around a Month time it's going to be Christmas.

The Christmas season can be a wonderful time of family togetherness and goodwill, but the spirit of Christmas often gets lost in the rush to buy gifts and go to parties.

Christmas to me is about Sharing and Giving, Sharing what you like with your Friends and Giving what you can afford to the less fortunate.

This is my first Christmas with Buen Amigo, and I hope to send out some Christmas Greetings to my Friends out there.

Here's a 'Christmas Card' I created.

Hope you will put this 'Card' on your site and help to spread the Joy of this Christmas Season =)

<a href="http://buen-amigo.blogspot.com" target="_blank"><img src="http://img31.picoodle.com/img/img31/5/11/19/t_MerryChristm_28d04d9.jpg" border="0" alt="Merry Christmas Buen Amigo!" /></a>

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"You're sick of feeling numb
You're not the only one
I'll take you by the hand
And I'll show you a world that you can understand
This life is filled with hurt
When happiness doesn't work
Trust me and take my hand
When the lights go out you will understand

Anger and agony
Are better than misery
Trust me, I've got a plan
When the lights go off you will understand

Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all"

-Three Days Grace, Pain.



Pain by Three Days Grace.

Came Across this Song when I was browsing through YouTube.

This song doesn't really sound Fantastic when I first listen to it.

Somehow the title of the song 'Pain' attracts me and made me listen to the whole song over again trying to find the meaning in it.

'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all'.

Life may be bad, there may be hardship.

You might feel sad, hurted and even pain.

Sometimes you would rather you feel nothing at all.

But imagine, if you can't feel the sadness or can't feel the pain, what's the difference of being dead?

Pain is constantly reminding us that we are Alive while Sadness is making us Feeling Alive.

Since we already know that we are Alive, why not Live this one and only Life to the fullest?

Since you feel the Pain, why not cure it and make yourself feel better?

Since you feel the Sadness, why not find ways to forget about it and make yourself Happy?

You may ask, How to cure the Pain? How to forget the Sadness?

No one can teach You how, as the person who understands You the most is Yourself.

The Answer is within You and is there waiting for You.

But don't worry, you are not alone.

I might not be able to cure your Pain or make you forget your Sadness, but I'll be here to lend You a listening ear.

I'll be here to Share your Sadness and Pain.

If You belief in me, I'll be here to guide You along the way You are looking for the Answer.

This Post is for all of You who's feeling Alive out there =)



P.S : Don't forget to off the Music of Buen Amigo when viewing this Video. Enjoy!

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Have you ever wonder how old will you live till?

How old would your parents live till?

As times goes by, while I'm going step by step into adulthood and independence, my parents are growing older too.

Signs of aging are starting to show on their faces and the hardship they went through when they are young are taking effect on their body.



I've never lose someone important to me in my Life before.

When I see the effects of Time and Aging, I start to Fear.

I've never experience the feeling of losing someone Important and I don't want to experience it ever!
(Don’t think I have a choice isn’t it? Haha)

I've tried imagining, in future, how will my Life be if that someone Important is gone.
But I just couldn't.

Have you ever lose someone Important to you?

How does it feel?

How long it takes for you to forget the pain?

These are the Answer that I'm still seeking yet Fear to find out.



I've seen how my Mum cried when my Grandfather passed away.

It’s been years but I still remember, the scene had engraved into my mind.

The kind of sorrow, sadness and feeling of losing someone so important.

Someone who had been supporting you since the day you came to this world, supporting you both physically and mentally.

No words can ever describe those feelings.

My heart ached when i saw my Mum crying with such pain.

Although Life must still goes on, but the pain won't go away, it will stay inside the heart forever.

Even till now, when my Mum mentions about my Grandfather, I still could see tears in her eyes.



Although I’m not very close to my Grandfather, but when he passed away, somehow certain forces or feelings made me cried.

Tears just flow out of my eyes, like a broken tap in the bathroom, there’s no way you could stop it.

Because of such experience, I couldn’t imagine what will happen if the person is someone who’s really close to me.

It’s also because of such Fear that made me treasure people around me a lot.

Especially my parent, who gives me all the support and made me who I am today.

Do you have such Fear too?

Care to share your point of view on the Answers I’m seeking for?

Last but not least, I dedicate this post to those who loses someone important before especially my Mum =)

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Everyday when I walk home, I will walk through a Park near my place.

Although there's different route I can take, some even shorter, but I'll still prefer walking through the Park.

Why?

Because in the Park, time seems to move slower from the normal fast pace world that we live in.
All around the park is Feeling of Joy and Sound of Laughter.

I can hear the Bell of the Ice Cream Man ringing, Birds flying freely in the Sky Chirping Happily and most important of all, the Laughter of the Children playing in the park.

I will often slow down my steps and look at the Children Playing around the Park.

A Little Sister alone playing with her doll while her Elder Brother is playing Hide-and-Seek with his Friends.

Bunch of Good Friends Racing against each other on their Precious Bicycle.



Two good Friends Sitting on the Swing side by side, sharing their experience and things happening in School.



These are the things that we often do when we were young.

What about now?

We are Rushing, Rushing to work, Rushing to summit report, Rushing to attend meeting, Rushing to complete project.

How many people are willing slow down their Steps, put down what they are doing and take a good look around while observing the things happening around them?

Those are just some simple things that the Children are doing in the park, these things don't cost any money either.
But they are happy, you can see it from the Smile on their Faces, the Smile of Happiness.

What about us?
We earned our own Living, we can go wherever we want and even buy anything we want.
But why don't we have such Smile on our face?

Is it because we are trying too hard to make ourselves happy, or should I say, trying too hard to satisfy our needs?



Take a walk in the Park when you are free, take a walk around your neighbourhood.

Slow down your pace, observe whats happening.

Look into your Memories, and look for the Lost Child in you too.

Play around like a Child, Run around like one, and most Importantly Smile like one.

After all, people always say, there's a Child living in everyone of us isn't it?

Treasure what you have, forgets about what you want.
Give yourself a break, a break away from the busy World out there.

After all, why work so hard for Happiness while these are the Simple Happiness that we can achieve everyday =)

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The World around us is always changing...

Changing towards good due to the newest Technology that helps in our Life...

Changing towards bad due to damaging of Mother Nature...

Now even my Office is changing ><"

We are shifting from 25th Floor to 10th Floor.

No more Nice View from the Top of the World and no more Personal Space due to changing of Office to Open Concept.

But is everybody able to Adapt to Changes easily?

Do you Change yourself to suit the Changing Environment?

Or do you Change your Environment to Suit you?

After thinking, I decide to go for the First Option.
(Changing the Environment to Suit me seems pretty hard)

This is why I've decide to Change the Layout of Buen Amigo.

A New Look for a New Buen Amigo!

Currently I'm Changing the Template and Layout so Buen Amigo might seems quite Empty, but please bare with me and I'll get everything Sort out Soon =)

Thanks for all the Support! Cheers!

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Perception... What's Perception?

Perception is what we see in Life and how do we see Life.

Since Perception is about Views in Life, doesn't it mean Perception is also how we distinguish between what is important and what is not in Life?

Life can be as big and important as you make it out to be. Or it can be as small and insignificant as you perceptions define it.

So how Big or how Small is your Life?

I used to think Life is bad, nothing goes in my way, everything in Life is just about Destiny making fun of me.

But soon I realised, even if it's Destiny that's making fun of me, but it doesn't gives me the leisure to sit and do nothing!

So is it that changes my way of thinking during that point of time?

It's all about Happiness.

Not that I suddenly found Happiness, it's that I came to an understanding that Perceptions in Life affects Happiness.

How can Perception in Life affects Happiness?

When you are pricked by the Thorns on the Rose, do you complain because Roses have Thorns, or do you rejoice because Thorns have Roses?

It's all just about you perceive things in Life with a negative connotation or you perceive things in Life with a positive connotation.

When you perceive things in Life with negative connotation, even when something great is happening, you always seem to perceive the situation negatively.
Because of this, You aren’t really happy in life.
But it’s not that you hate life or anything, it’s just that you perceive more Thorns than Roses.

How can we change Perception in Life?

If you can learn to see the Roses among the Thorns you will find that Life becomes so much better and you will begin to experience a level of Happiness that you may have never experienced before.



There are 2 types of people in this world, people who see life as Colorful and Grand and people who see Life as Insignificant and Futile.

I wouldn't say any one type is wrong. It all has to do with how you see things.
Some people tend to see things as humongous and complex; others see things as humble and simple.

So which type do you belong to?

If you belong to the second type, is it because although there is greatness living inside of you but you don't know how to achieve it?

Since we all only have one life to Live, why don't we might as well live it to its fullest and experience life with as much happiness as possible?

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Meanings... Meanings of Life... Meanings of doing certain things in Life...

Sorry for disappearing so long ><"

It's not that I'm no longer maintaining this blog...

It's because I'm out on a 'mission'... a 'mission' to find the meaning of my Life...

Been wondering alot recently...
wondering 'Why am I doing this?
Why am I doing that?'...

It all feels like...
what I'm doing...
are all for the sake of other people but not myself...

I dont feel the sense of happy....
or the emotion 'happy'...

But what can I do to make myself happy?

Have you ever wonder about this question?

My 'mission' of finding this answer...
failed...

Till now...
I'm still unable to answer this question if someone ask me...

Is it that when you do things for the sake of other people...
you see their smile on their face...
you will feel happy about it too?

Since young...
I didn't have much of a choice of which 'path' of Life i want to take...

The 'path' that I took is all along guided by my parent...

I wouldn't say it's a bad thing...
as who knows what will happen if I took another 'path' in the decision of my own...

So...
Taking this 'path' is for the sake of yourself?
or for the sake of your parent?

Do your parent really understand what you want the guide you to your 'target' of Life?

After searching for so long...
I decided to give up on this search...

I believe there's someone out where...
who is able to enlighten me =)

Please share with me...
your 'answer'...
your story of Life...

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An expert say, body language is not the same for men and women.

Women are most turned on by a man who uses his eyes to say: I am interested in you.

Men on the other hand are most aroused by a woman with a suggestive, seductive or flirtatious walk.

Interesting isn’t it?

After the first meeting, it takes only seven seconds for us to know whether we find the other person sexy or not.

In that time, he has scanned her body completely before returning his gaze to her face, and she has made up her mind by concentrating on his eyes and lips.

So what is your body telling the opposite sex?

A lot of us may not know it, by using the right body language; you can give yourself self-confidence a boost!

When you are displaying confidence signals: assertiveness, control, dominance – you’re bound to feel more confident.

The hand-on-hips stance will signal an aggressive attitude.

When you’re seated, then lean forward with both hands on your knees; it conveys the idea that you’re confident and ready.



By knowing the right body language to show is especially helpful in certain situation.

During a job interview, don’t fold or cross your arms; this signals defensiveness, not confidence.
Even crossing one arm over your body to hold the other or fiddling with a watch, ring, bracelet or handbag reveal a lack of confidence and should be avoided.

When talking to someone you like, always keep your hands away from your head or face; covering your mouth, touching your nose, rubbing your ears and eyes and scratching your neck all signal impatience or anxiety.
It might even diminish confidence in you.

How can body language help build our confidence?

Display your thumbs! Use you palm power! Stake out your territory!



Thumbs displayed over pockets, belts or jacket labels signal dominance or superiority.

Use the palm power, be the first to extend your hand in greeting. Taking initiative is a ‘take charge’ signal.

There might be situation or conversation that we don’t have any confidence no matter how we ‘Brain-Wash’ ourselves.

This is where ‘Stake out your territory!’ comes in.

Lean against something that belongs to other people, such as desk or filing cabinet. This is one way of showing and establishing confidence.

So how can we know if that other person likes us?

Always keep a look-out for the following signs:
- Eye contact.
- An open, comfortable posture, instead of crossed hands before the chest.
- Special Gestures such as tossing hair, licking lips, and eyes that open wider.

So look a look out for these signs, and hope you will find your someone 'Special' =)

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Last Thursday and Friday I went to a very interesting course, which I hope to share with all of my Friends here.

The name of the course is ‘GROW Your Ideas’.

Basically it’s a course which enables your skills for Innovation.

So what is Innovation?

From what I understand after the 2 long day, Innovation is the successful exploitation of new ideas and the enabling of people to have ideas and take positive action for change.

Many of us are too satisfied in our very own Comfort Zone to dare to make a change to our Life.

I believe some of you may have asked yourselves before, ‘Why must I do it like this?’ or ‘Why can’t I do it that way?’

Being Innovation is also being able or dare to make changes to interrupt our normal Life/Work flow.

Why I use the word ‘dare’, because not all changes will have a good outcome.

It’s because of these different possible outcomes; people are unable to step out of their Comfort Zone.

During the first day of the course, I asked this question ‘What’s the difference between being Creative and Innovative?’

Creative is the New or Unique ideas which many of us sometime thinks about, but didn't make it to work.

Innovative is putting our Creativity into good use.
Making changes to certain flow, starting a fresh use of the idea or exploit current things around us and turn it into something new.

But both Creativity and Innovative cannot be learn, they can only be inspired and bring it out of every one of us.

At times, we are trying to step out of our Comfort Zone and prepare to make a change, but suddenly there’s a ‘Road Block’ in front.

Let’s say at work, when we have a new suggestion to change certain things in the system or work flow.

The first reaction we get is ‘It’s too risky’, ‘Let’s get back to reality’ or It’s good, but…’

All these negative reaction made us think twice in future when we have another new idea or possible a radical idea.

Other typical of ‘Road Block’ is that there is lack of openness to new ideas in people around us, people normally attempt to measure results too soon for it to happen or there’s too much commitment to current work/things to try make it happen.

Worst are people are always having a tendency to talk about newness, but the walk is about feasibility.

What can we do to remove these ‘Road Block’?

In fact there’s nothing much we can do but to start off with ourselves.

When we hear new ideas from people, don’t straight away think about why it CAN’T work.

Think about why it CAN.

Learn to accept new ideas around us, even if it’s a real bad idea, think about how to improve it and make it into a good one.

There’s still a lot about this course, but if I put everything in this post, it might get too tiring to read.

If anyone interested in knowing more about it, feel free to request and I will come out with another post in detail.

Things such as Generating Ideas, Harvesting Ideas, Reinforcing Ideas and Overcoming Obstacles, Potential Problems and Risk.

So, ready to make change for a better in Life with me?

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Love - a constellation of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection or profound oneness.

The meaning of Love varies relative to context.

Love can also be construed as Romantic Love, Platonic Love, Religious Love, Familial Love, and, more casually, great affection for anything considered strongly pleasurable, desirable, or preferred, to include activities and foods.

If you search the internet, the definition for Love is often classified it into types, such as passionate love, romantic love, and committed love.

These types of Love can often be generalized into a level of sexual attraction.

In common use, Love has two primary meanings, the first being an indication of adoration for another person or thing, and the second being a state of relational status.

So what is your definition of Love?

Many people believe Love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears.

This sensation is based on both physical and emotional attraction.

Which means this sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears, can just as easily degenerate when the magic is “just isn’t there” anymore.

Then what is Love, real lasting Love?

This is what I always belief in - Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another’s goodness.

Some of you may ask, what is this ‘goodness'?

I’ve known her as friend for 7 years, I’ve made her my Love 2 years ago (I'm still Loving her more and more as each day goes by).

Shes attractive, gorgeous, intelligent and its everything about her that attracts me.

But it’s the sense of happiness she gave me when we are together, that ‘moves me to Love’.

Of cause this isn’t the only factor or ‘goodness’ I see in this Love, but it’s definitely a ‘goodness’ I see which made me appriciate her a lot =)

Pretty or intelligent, theres always someone out there who will be prettier or more intelligent.

But there is no second person who can give me the same amount of happiness I’m feeling now.

Someone once told me, Love is passive and Love is something that can’t be create.

If Love comes from appreciating goodness, it need not ‘just happen’, you can make it happen.

You can create it by just forcusing on the good in another person (I’m sure everyone have some good in them).
By forcusing on good, you can Love almost anyone.

What is the purpose of creating Love?

There isn’t a couple who wont quarrel at all during their path of Love, as different people has different character and habits, it’s these differences that cause either minor or major conflict or argument (I prefer calling it argument rather than quarrel between couples).

Being able to forcus on the good of one another, helps us to understand and appreciate more of each other and forget about the differences.



Few years back I had a discussion with a group of friends, a discussion about Love and Relationships.

One of them mentioned something meaningful which i remember till today, In the path of Love, “Grass always seems greener on the other side, it depends a lot if you are able to find the greener ones in your yellow patch of grass”.

The more you understand and know about someone, the more faults you will see in him/her.

This indirectly make other people out there seems more attractive physically and emotionally.

How to find ‘the greener ones from your yellow patch of grass’?

I believe the best way to feel loving is to be loving, which means giving.

Care for the person you Love, show concern about things in his/her life and growth.

Respond to his/her expressed and unexpressed needs, especially emotionally.

Respect, the ability to see a person as he/she is, be aware of the person’s unique individuality and wanting that person to grow and unfold as he/she is.

The more you give, the more you Love.

This is why your parents (who’ve given you more than you’ll ever know) undoubtedly Love you more than you Love them, and you, in turn, will love your own children more than they'll love you.

Even a relationship with true Love needs to be maintain through continual, unconditional giving.

Love isn’t about saying “I Love You”, but showing it =)

Have you found your true Love yet?

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Nothing great in the world has ever been accomplished without Passions.

This is what I always believe in.

But in Life, do we really have a choice to choose between Passions and Reality?

Passions, a powerful emotion, a boundless enthusiams.

Lifelong dreams are the stuff of Passion.

Since young, we develops hobbies and interest through things we learn and see.

A hobby or an interest becomes a Passion when it has made inroad into our heart and change the way we think and view things.

But how many of us can really do things that we are Passionate in for life? Or for a living?

I used to like designing and art a lot, and I used every chance I have to take up courses and lessons to understand and learned more about it.

Until a certain stage of life, when I have to decide what I really want to do for the rest of my life.

I wanted to study interior design, but being discouraged by my parent, I took up engineering instead.

Which is where I am now, working in a software related job, and maybe for the rest of my life.

I wouldn’t say I hate being where I am now because who knows what will happen if I really take up interior design, as the job opportunity for it during that time isnt a lot.

So where is the choice?

Although there’s people out there, who is really doing things they love doing for Life, but most of us don’t.

School teaches us all kinds of subjects, all kinds of modules or stuff that helps us to find a stable and normal job.
But why didn’t they teach us anything about pursuing our Passions and Dreams?

I may not be able to do the things I Love or I Passionate about for Life, but still, I encourage all my friends out there.

Follow your heart, but be quiet for awhile first.
Ask questions, then feel the answer from within.
And Learn to trust your heart.

After all, only Passionate people dare to dream =)

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There is no such thing as a life without any regrets.

No matter big or small, it will be a memory that lives in our mind forever.

Just like a quote I came across recently, “Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.”.

When you regret about a certain decision you made in the past, in present if you come across the same situation again, you fear of making another decision which will turn out wrong or has a bad outcome.

Just like Love, some people fear the feeling of falling in Love, or even admiring someone.

In the past, I did once fear the feeling of falling in Love with someone. Or I should say, afraid of giving promise to the person I Love.

So what caused these fear? The answer is Regrets.

I regret that I made a wrong decision at that point of time and hurt someone I Love.

Especially when I could hear her crying over the phone a few days later after my ‘decision’.

I feel like a sinner who had made the biggest mistake in the world.

I started to doubt about my decision, starting to regret making this decision which caused pain to someone I actually care about.

This ‘Regret’ haunted me for years, as I no longer have the courage to give promises or commit to a relationships.

Few years later, which is now, I finally moved on. She did too =)

I’m happy for her that she find someone who truly loves her, and I too got someone I’m willing to do anything for just to see her smile (^_^)

Sometimes people regrets about certain decision that affects their present and future.

I too regret that I didn’t study hard enough when I was still a student, haha.

But this is already a fact, no matter how much you blame yourself.

So don’t let regrets become either burdens that interfere with your present happiness and restrict your future, or motivation to move forward.

Theres too many decision point in our path of Life, and how do we know if the certain decision we made wont cause any regret?

There is no way we could tell, as no one can foresee what will happen in future.

But i would much rather have regrets about not doing what people said, than regretting not doing what my heart led me to and wondering what life had been like if I'd just been myself.

What are your regrets in Life and what are your beliefs in making decision that wont cause regrets?

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Family, no matter who you are, every one of us has a family.

No matter close or distant, good or bad relationship, they still play an important role in our life.

For me, I appreciate my family a lot, especially my parents.

They are just a like typical parent, who is willing to do anything just for the sake of my future (or should I say, for me to have a bright future).

I have an elder sister, a distant one in fact.

Last time I used to hate a lot about my family, especially my sister.

Elder siblings are supposed to play a good role/example for the younger one isn’t it?
But my elder sister never!

Because of her, my parent never give me a second chance in life, mostly in terms of studies.

She turned rebellious; flunk her grades, but my parents kept giving her a never ending second chance.
They support her through her studies no matter what.

What about me?

All I get is ‘If you never make it, you can just forget about it’.

Because of these, I made a promise to myself; I will prove to other people I will make it no matter what. No matter how difficult it will be, I will never allow myself to ask for a second chance.

And I did make it; in fact I can proudly say that I didn’t let my parents down.

This is when, I really understand, understand the true purpose of my parent for treating me like this during that time.

They truly hope I won’t follow my elder sister foot step, which made them come to a decision that they couldn’t pampered me just like what they did to my elder sister.

Since then, I no longer hate them for what they did that time, but I’m very grateful for it. If not for those words, I won’t really put my effort into my studies as I’m very playful during that period of time.

I’m grateful to my elder sister too, why?
Because, she let me understand what is the result of making certain mistake in life, so that I won’t follow it. (Although she’s a much better person now)

A lot of us often misunderstand the true meaning behind the things that our parent had done for us.

Try to be in their shoes thinking, maybe it will help (^_^)

Sometime we might find them naggy (although can be quite a nuisance sometimes, haha), but with just a word of assurance like ‘Don’t worry, I’ll be fine’ with a smile on your face, can make them feel much better and understand that you are actually growing up.

It’s a fact and everyone has to face it; our parents will be gone someday.
They can’t be staying by our side forever, so spend more time with them, communicate more with them.

Learn to appreciate things around you before it’s gone.

By then, regret is too late.

As I always believe ‘Leave no room in Life for any regrets’.

So, when is the last time you told your parent ‘I Love You’?

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Friendship, what is your definition of a friend?

Someone who goes to work/school everyday with you? Someone who accompanies you for lunch break everyday? Or is it someone who invites you out for an overnight party even though you are having an important exam/work the next day?

Alot of us know whats the true definition of a friend, but we often forget about it. Until one day then you find out, the person who you defines as 'friend' is actually telling everyone around you your darkest secret.

Why do people often makes this kind of mistake?

Because we are creatures who is scare of the feeling of being lonely =)

'Friends - Is Someone Who Might Not Be Around To Share Your Happiness, But Is Someone Who Definitely Will Be Around To Share Your Troubles'

This is what I always believe in.

So, how many friends do you have in your life? how many of them actually hangs around during you most troubled days?

I can proudly say 'I HAVE 7 FRIENDS'
(p.s. my definition of close friends, good friends, best friends, buddies are all the same, 'FRIENDS')

5 of them joined me in my 'Life' when i was 13 years old, 2 of them came in when I was 17.
Not to mention, 1 out of 7 of them, has special meaning to me ('.-,)

'Friendship' doesnt just happen overnight, they accompanied me through important stages of life. They are the one whos around when I'm feeling down, they are the one who came over to me asking if I'm fine when I looked troubled.

Because of all these, which make me treasure these friendship alot, I believe friends are important in our lifes.

After all, I'm not trying say 'beware who you befriend with', haha.

But understand and keep in mind the true meaning of 'Friend'.

As a heart not only can be broken by someone you love, but also a friend whom you care for alot =)

Last but not least, treasure those around you as true friendship are hard to come by.

Thats all for today, take care, my friend (^_^)

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