Are you living in your dreams?

If the answer is no, then ask yourself “why not”?

Life is short, and you never know when it will come to an end.

Do you really want to say that you lived a life of unfulfilled dreams?

But wait, most people often says “I’m waiting for the perfect time” or “I’m waiting for the perfect situation”.

All this waiting is just an excuse not to go out and try.
Or, maybe it’s not that you are “waiting”, but rather that you are afraid.

So, what are you afraid of?

Are you afraid of making a mistake?

Afraid of making the wrong choice?

Are you afraid that you may not be good enough, or that the people around you might laugh at your dreams, or won’t support you?

Are your fears enough to stop you?

And what happens if you do end up living your dreams?

Are you afraid that once you get there then you’ll have to live them?

Meaning that what you’ve been talking about for so long will now come to fruition and you might not actually succeed?



I often see that fear is the number one reason that people do not live their dreams.

Fear holds us back, sometimes paralyzing us, and prevents us from moving forward.

But, when you look back at your life, what do you want it to be about?

Do you want to say, “I could have” or “I did”?

How do you move past your fears and live your dreams?

Here's 7 steps to overcome your fear which I've learn from Deborah Brown-Volkman articles.

1. Acknowledge That You Have Dreams

People often say that they don’t have dreams or they can’t remember what they are.
You know what your dreams are, you really do.
You’ve just pushed them down so deep that it might take some time to bring them to the surface again.
Let them out, you deserve to live them.

2. Write Down Your Dreams

How can you live your dreams if you can’t see what they are?
Write them down.
Don’t judge your dreams or wonder “how?”
Just do it!

3. Realize That Dreams Come True In Steps

Your dreams cannot come true until you take a small step.
It doesn’t have to be a large one.
It just has to get you moving.
Small steps are the steps that will get you to your dreams.
Until, one day, you realize that you are there.

4. Face The Barriers That Are Keeping You From Living Your Dreams

What’s keeping you from living your dreams?
Not enough money or time?
Too many responsibilities?
Look for ways to overcome this.
There will always be a reason not to do something.
It’s up to you if you want to give into these reasons or not.

5. Find People Who Will Support You

Select people who will love you and cheer you on as you move toward your dreams.
Tell them how much you love and appreciate them.
You do not want to live your dreams by yourself.

6. Pat Yourself On The Back For Your Successes

You deserve it!
The fun part of living your dreams is the journey.
It is the road to success that builds character and the part that you will remember the most.

7. Be Comfortable With Fear

There are times when you will wonder if you have what it takes to fulfill your dreams or if you deserve to live them.
Fear is a normal part of the process.
If you can accept that sooner or later you will be afraid, then you don’t have to spend time worrying about what you will do when fear sets in.
The only way past fear is through it and not around it.
There is no other way.



So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!

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Relationships hold a high place for most of us, especially women.

They want great relationships with clear communication, empathy, understanding, mutual trust and friendship.

But what do we get much of the time?

Relationships loaded with communication problems, irritability, conflict, misunderstandings, blame, hurt and anger!

If you have a relationship like this you know what I mean.
Stress grows and settles in your muscles and organs and you develop anxiety and depression.

Loyalty, tradition and fear of failure demand we stay.

We try again and again to fix the problems, ignore the fighting, and say the same thing for the tenth time with different words.

Do you identify with this situation?

You can stuff resentment and deny personal needs for the sake of the relationship.

But it just happen over and over again, so often that it seems like the same ‘Episode’ every week.

Walking through these relationships mine fields is hazardous to your health!

Relationship Stress, causing you to fall sick, unable to concentrate for work and even break down into depression.



What can you do?

No matter what you do, never hope that things will change for a better, cause it won't!

You have to change it yourself.

You can make a difference.

But how?

1. Get to know yourself, inside and out. Know what you want and need. Know what you like. Determine your values and priorities. Write them down. Believe in yourself and don't compromise.

2. Choose healthy relationships from the start. Don't go out looking for a red dress and settle for beige! Don't be desperate - be choosey!

3. Move slowly and develop a strong foundation. Don't get enmeshed in an
emotional relationship before you see the hazards and recognize the danger.

4. Nurture good relationships. Take the first step to schedule a get together or just chat on the phone.

5. Develop excellent communication and conflict resolution skills, and use them. This in itself can drastically change a relationship.

6. Develop assertiveness skills. Passive people ignore their needs and get walked on. Aggressive people walk on others to get what they want. Assertive people learn to get their needs met without walking on anyone.

7. Learn to really listen. Listen with body, mind and spirit.

8. Be self-aware. When a misunderstanding happens, check it out. Be sure you have all the information. Determine what part you played in the situation.

9. Develop intuition and body awareness so you can identify relationship stress in your body immediately, as it is happening. Then deal with it appropriately before it gets deadly.

10. Lose the denial. If something isn't right, deal with it. Don't play pretend and wake up too late. All relationships have misunderstandings. It's how we deal with them that counts.



If you find yourself struggling with your relationships, new or long term, don't wait!

Do what you deem is right, as Life is short.

Leave no Regrets for Future.

P.S. This post is for a friend of mine as she recently encountered some relationship problem.
Losing the sense of direction during a relationship is common for most of us.
What's important is we must make a decision on the 'direction' we want to go and find our way out, not standing in the middle of no where telling yourself 'I'm too weak to go on'.
May you find your Happiness soon my friend =)

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Happiness, what does happiness means to you?

Do you feel Happy for the things that Happen, or do the things that Happen makes you happy?

Both may mean the same to you. But not for long.

Here's a Story I found which might change the way you think =)



The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window.

"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room .... just wait."

"That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied.

"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged ... it's how I arrange my mind.

I already decided to love it ... It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away ... just for this time in my life."



What does Happiness means to you now?

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I once brought this Book by Mitch Albom called 'The Five People You Meet in Heaven'.

Here a brief Story of this Book:

Eddie is a wounded war veteran, an old man who has lived, in his mind, an uninspired life.
His job is fixing rides at a seaside amusement park.
On his 83rd birthday, a tragic accident kills him as he tries to save a little girl from a falling cart.
He awakes in the afterlife, where he learns that heaven is not a destination.
It's a place where your life is explained to you by five people, some of whom you knew, others who may have been strangers.
One by one, from childhood to soldier to old age, Eddie's five people revisit their connections to him on earth, illuminating the mysteries of his "meaningless" life, and revealing the haunting secret behind the eternal question: "Why was I here?"



This is one of the most meaningful Book I've ever read.

And I think everyone should read it =)
(If you couldn't find the Book or unwilling to spend any money in buying, feel free to drop me a Comment with your Email and, I'll find a 'Solution' for you)

There's also other titles of Mitch Albom which I think are very meaningful too.

Tuesday with Morrie and For One More Day.

Do check them out when you're free =)

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Christmas Season is near by and it's time to get Gifts and Presents for our Families and Friends =)

Have you brought what you want for your Love ones?

Or are you still Headache over what to buy?

People are always under the assumption that giving gifts is about emptying your wallet.

Gifts are a way to express yourself to another individual and show care, support, understanding, celebration, happiness, and love.

When giving a gift it isn't always necessary to spend the big bucks and lavish your recievers heart through money.



How about normal days? Do you give Gifts to your Love ones too?

Since Gifts are a way to express yourself to your Love ones how you feel, why must you wait for Seasons like Christmas to give Gifts?

You must be thinking, buying Gifts everyday will cost a bomb or put a hole your pocket.

Not all Gifts cost money =)

Here's 8 Great Gifts that you can give to people around you everyday.

1. The Gift of Listening

But you must REALLY listen.

No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

2. The Gift of Affection

Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and hand holds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

3. The Gift of Laughter

Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you".

4. The Gift of Written Note

It can be a simple "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.

5. The Gift of Compliment

A simple and sincere, "You look great in red", "You did a super job" or "That was a wonderful meal" can make someone's day.

6. The Gift of Favor

Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

7. The Gift of Solitude

There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

8. The Gift of Cheerful Deposition

The easiest way to feel good is to make other feel good.



Hope you all enjoy the this Holiday Season and Remember the True Meaning of Christmas.

It's not what you give, it’s the Meaning behind the gift!

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Hi all Buen Amigo! (Buen Amigo means Great Friend)

It's the time of the year again, the Holiday Season!

Imagine all the Presents, Gifts, Food and most important Chocolates!
I Love Chocolates.

In around a Month time it's going to be Christmas.

The Christmas season can be a wonderful time of family togetherness and goodwill, but the spirit of Christmas often gets lost in the rush to buy gifts and go to parties.

Christmas to me is about Sharing and Giving, Sharing what you like with your Friends and Giving what you can afford to the less fortunate.

This is my first Christmas with Buen Amigo, and I hope to send out some Christmas Greetings to my Friends out there.

Here's a 'Christmas Card' I created.

Hope you will put this 'Card' on your site and help to spread the Joy of this Christmas Season =)

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"You're sick of feeling numb
You're not the only one
I'll take you by the hand
And I'll show you a world that you can understand
This life is filled with hurt
When happiness doesn't work
Trust me and take my hand
When the lights go out you will understand

Anger and agony
Are better than misery
Trust me, I've got a plan
When the lights go off you will understand

Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all"

-Three Days Grace, Pain.



Pain by Three Days Grace.

Came Across this Song when I was browsing through YouTube.

This song doesn't really sound Fantastic when I first listen to it.

Somehow the title of the song 'Pain' attracts me and made me listen to the whole song over again trying to find the meaning in it.

'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all'.

Life may be bad, there may be hardship.

You might feel sad, hurted and even pain.

Sometimes you would rather you feel nothing at all.

But imagine, if you can't feel the sadness or can't feel the pain, what's the difference of being dead?

Pain is constantly reminding us that we are Alive while Sadness is making us Feeling Alive.

Since we already know that we are Alive, why not Live this one and only Life to the fullest?

Since you feel the Pain, why not cure it and make yourself feel better?

Since you feel the Sadness, why not find ways to forget about it and make yourself Happy?

You may ask, How to cure the Pain? How to forget the Sadness?

No one can teach You how, as the person who understands You the most is Yourself.

The Answer is within You and is there waiting for You.

But don't worry, you are not alone.

I might not be able to cure your Pain or make you forget your Sadness, but I'll be here to lend You a listening ear.

I'll be here to Share your Sadness and Pain.

If You belief in me, I'll be here to guide You along the way You are looking for the Answer.

This Post is for all of You who's feeling Alive out there =)



P.S : Don't forget to off the Music of Buen Amigo when viewing this Video. Enjoy!

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Have you ever wonder how old will you live till?

How old would your parents live till?

As times goes by, while I'm going step by step into adulthood and independence, my parents are growing older too.

Signs of aging are starting to show on their faces and the hardship they went through when they are young are taking effect on their body.



I've never lose someone important to me in my Life before.

When I see the effects of Time and Aging, I start to Fear.

I've never experience the feeling of losing someone Important and I don't want to experience it ever!
(Don’t think I have a choice isn’t it? Haha)

I've tried imagining, in future, how will my Life be if that someone Important is gone.
But I just couldn't.

Have you ever lose someone Important to you?

How does it feel?

How long it takes for you to forget the pain?

These are the Answer that I'm still seeking yet Fear to find out.



I've seen how my Mum cried when my Grandfather passed away.

It’s been years but I still remember, the scene had engraved into my mind.

The kind of sorrow, sadness and feeling of losing someone so important.

Someone who had been supporting you since the day you came to this world, supporting you both physically and mentally.

No words can ever describe those feelings.

My heart ached when i saw my Mum crying with such pain.

Although Life must still goes on, but the pain won't go away, it will stay inside the heart forever.

Even till now, when my Mum mentions about my Grandfather, I still could see tears in her eyes.



Although I’m not very close to my Grandfather, but when he passed away, somehow certain forces or feelings made me cried.

Tears just flow out of my eyes, like a broken tap in the bathroom, there’s no way you could stop it.

Because of such experience, I couldn’t imagine what will happen if the person is someone who’s really close to me.

It’s also because of such Fear that made me treasure people around me a lot.

Especially my parent, who gives me all the support and made me who I am today.

Do you have such Fear too?

Care to share your point of view on the Answers I’m seeking for?

Last but not least, I dedicate this post to those who loses someone important before especially my Mum =)

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Everyday when I walk home, I will walk through a Park near my place.

Although there's different route I can take, some even shorter, but I'll still prefer walking through the Park.

Why?

Because in the Park, time seems to move slower from the normal fast pace world that we live in.
All around the park is Feeling of Joy and Sound of Laughter.

I can hear the Bell of the Ice Cream Man ringing, Birds flying freely in the Sky Chirping Happily and most important of all, the Laughter of the Children playing in the park.

I will often slow down my steps and look at the Children Playing around the Park.

A Little Sister alone playing with her doll while her Elder Brother is playing Hide-and-Seek with his Friends.

Bunch of Good Friends Racing against each other on their Precious Bicycle.



Two good Friends Sitting on the Swing side by side, sharing their experience and things happening in School.



These are the things that we often do when we were young.

What about now?

We are Rushing, Rushing to work, Rushing to summit report, Rushing to attend meeting, Rushing to complete project.

How many people are willing slow down their Steps, put down what they are doing and take a good look around while observing the things happening around them?

Those are just some simple things that the Children are doing in the park, these things don't cost any money either.
But they are happy, you can see it from the Smile on their Faces, the Smile of Happiness.

What about us?
We earned our own Living, we can go wherever we want and even buy anything we want.
But why don't we have such Smile on our face?

Is it because we are trying too hard to make ourselves happy, or should I say, trying too hard to satisfy our needs?



Take a walk in the Park when you are free, take a walk around your neighbourhood.

Slow down your pace, observe whats happening.

Look into your Memories, and look for the Lost Child in you too.

Play around like a Child, Run around like one, and most Importantly Smile like one.

After all, people always say, there's a Child living in everyone of us isn't it?

Treasure what you have, forgets about what you want.
Give yourself a break, a break away from the busy World out there.

After all, why work so hard for Happiness while these are the Simple Happiness that we can achieve everyday =)

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The World around us is always changing...

Changing towards good due to the newest Technology that helps in our Life...

Changing towards bad due to damaging of Mother Nature...

Now even my Office is changing ><"

We are shifting from 25th Floor to 10th Floor.

No more Nice View from the Top of the World and no more Personal Space due to changing of Office to Open Concept.

But is everybody able to Adapt to Changes easily?

Do you Change yourself to suit the Changing Environment?

Or do you Change your Environment to Suit you?

After thinking, I decide to go for the First Option.
(Changing the Environment to Suit me seems pretty hard)

This is why I've decide to Change the Layout of Buen Amigo.

A New Look for a New Buen Amigo!

Currently I'm Changing the Template and Layout so Buen Amigo might seems quite Empty, but please bare with me and I'll get everything Sort out Soon =)

Thanks for all the Support! Cheers!

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